John Newman’s song “Love Me Again,” is a powerful expression of someone who has inflicted a deep wound to their partner and is wanting to know if the partner will take him back. He describes how he has “torn his partner’s heart and is that what devil’s do?” He says it “took so long how he shook the angel in you.” I would deduce that he avoided closeness with the partner and strayed from the relationship. This would cause the hurt and betrayal. Now he begs the question, “I need to know now can you love me again?” He is changing the dynamic by going to his partner and in a painful way of asking to be loved again. The music echoes the pain and rawness of this relationship. The rhythmic power of the guitar, piano, and percussion conveys the pain and desperation of Newman with his vocal that has a wailing quality with a rock spin to it.
He tells his partner that he’s “rising from the crowd rising up to you.” This is his way of changing his avoidant and hurtful dynamic to one of going towards his partner. He states in the song he has found a new strength in this.
He then uses a rhythmic rock sequence to ask if his partner will love him again. He describes what he did was unforgivable. He compares himself to the demons that destroy everything.
The song then slows down and he begs, “I told you once again do this again, do this again, oh, oh.” This is how the dynamic changes. He has gone from a role of avoiding closeness and sabotaging the relationship to desperately pursuing to be loved again. The vocals with the music demonstrates the intense emotional pain involved when there is a major wound in a relationship. The lyrics painfully but beautifully describe the destructive pattern in this relationship and the attempt at repair by the partner that inflicted the wound.
So often in my office when I see couples who are struggling with relationship wounds I help partners ask their significant other, “I need to know now, can you love me again?” This is so hard to do. A lot of times it comes out in indirect ways such as over pursuing with large quantities of texting and phone calls, being critical, or smothering the partner with too much kindness and caretaking. This gets frustrating for the partner. They can react to that and a new, destructive pattern in the relationship gets installed. ” Love Me Again,” by John Newman demonstrates the emotional story of a wounded relationship through descriptive lyrics and powerful, alternative rock music. I recommend it. The link to it follows.