Diamonds, by Rhianna, shines light on attunement in a relationship. She beautifully, and exquisitely expresses what it is like to be “as one,” with a partner. You can feel like a snug gem as you listen to her passionate vocal throughout the song. The lyrics start out with her describing her relationship as “finding light in the beautiful sea, I choose to be happy you and I, you and I.” She then compares their relationship like “diamonds in the sky.” Her partner is then described as a “shooting star she sees, a vision of ecstasy. When you hold me I’m alive.” These words fit emotional attunement. In this relationship she wants to be happy and chooses that. There is a genuine feeling of being two diamonds in the sky. As I hear her vocal throughout the song I can picture how close and secure she feels. When she is held “she is alive.” Hearing that lyric, feeling the emotion in her voice, and having the percussion and orchestra carry her through, it expresses the safety and feeling of attunement in this relationship. You just don’t know she feels as one with her partner, but you feel it yourself.
More attunement follows with a slowed down beat and a chant-like recital of her “knowing we’d be one right away.” By looking into her partner’s eyes she could feel the energy of sun rays.” You can feel the connection she experienced when she first looked into her partner’s eyes as that stanza is played. “I saw the life inside your eyes” she passionately and powerfully projects as the rhythm of the percussions and orchestra continue to carry her like a vessel in the sky she sings about. She goes on to sing “eye to eye we’re so alive, like diamonds in the sky.” This demonstrates the feeling of connection, safety, attunement, without even having to speak. By the gaze into the eyes of your lover you are filled up.
She repeats the lyrics “we’re diamonds in the sky,” over and over, to convey that feeling of connection and safety. The emotion and passion in her voice with the rhythm of the orchestra and percussion, take you for a ride on this journey of pure attunement.
This song illustrates through the few lyrics it has, how to attune and connect without words. You do it by gazing, feeling, and absorbing. By taking a huge risk. The repetition of the words, the repetition of the beat and the rhythm, seeps into your soul and brain, and you can connect with the passion of the relationship she sings about. In my office, when couples are able to attain the safety, the connection, the attunement they long for, especially after a difficult time when they have been disconnected, I can sense that attunement from them. They can sit next to each other, I can see them gazing at each other, and without saying anything there is this feeling of oneness. Almost like “diamonds in the sky.”