Whenever you disagree or argue, you and your partner always come back to the same argument. It is familiar and gets more frustrating each time it happens. It is the same issue that keeps popping its ugly head? Maybe one of you is feeling jealous or threatened by the other person’s job or status at their place of employment? Or it could be that one of you feels insecure with the atmosphere of the organization or company where the other works? Sometimes one partner has difficulty when their partner stays home with the kids and is not working. It could be something else entirely. When there is conflict, or you and your partner feel disconnected, you disagree, argue, there is a guarantee this issue comes to the surface. You get stuck fighting over this, and there is no resolution. You are left feeling alone, hurt, frustrated, even angry.
I find when I work with couples who get stuck in this way, they need help expressing their feelings in a way that is not so defensive. There is usually an emotion inside that is not coming out. It is like an impacted wisdom tooth. It hurts really bad and causes you to complain and even get mad. When that tooth is extracted it is a relief. As a couple you need some help with getting out that impacted emotion that one or both of you are carrying. The relief is there for you to have.